Friday, October 30, 2009

Joy Diet - Treats

Am I REALLY supposed to be blogging while game two of the World Series is on????? JEEZ! :) (yes, I know this seems out of character - but that's me- I'm an enigma)

OK - here it is quick & dirty. I am one of those people who has a hard time thinking up treats and even when I do think of them - I don't do them. Last year I while I was doing a rather physically demanding show (many bruises) under stressful conditions I promised myself I would get a massage when it was over - never did it. Then after doing Midsummer while clinically depressed I promised myself I would get a massage when it was over - never did it. THEN after doing Heidi Chronicles (both times) I promised myself I would get a massage when it was over - well you know the drill now. Could it be my body goes into depression because I never follow through on my promises to it?

Why do I defer my desires, why don't I give myself the treats I know I 'd love. These are deep questions and I could (and maybe should) stop here to try to get to the bottom of them but I think they are questions I will probably be working on for quite a some time. So, I'll ponder and keep paddling. I've started a little list of treats and I'm starting to do them. Today I listened to opera even though other family members were home - baby steps, my friends, baby steps.

This weekend I'll treat myself to one of my favorite holidays - HALLOWEEN!!!


TRICK-OR-TREAT!!!

17 comments:

KathrynAntyr said...

Keep taking those baby steps. I've also had a hard time with treating myself well. Funny, I have a gift certificate for a massage that was given to me this summer as a birthday present and I haven't used it yet. I told myself 5 weeks ago that after my online workshops wrap up (which is next week) that I would treat myself to the massage. Hmmmm I wonder if I'll follow through. I can sense some resistance.

Take gentle steps!

Lawendula said...

Well I think, you are not alone with not treating yourself (is that correct English, I don't know). Many women always care so much for others and so less for themselves.
I think Martha knows this quite well (nobody knows this more than a mother of a handycapped child).
So making a list can be a good start.

GraceGal said...

Congratulations on your baby steps. Now write a note to yourself somewhere as a reminder to continue. Often as we move on I forget some of my good intentions. It sounds like this is a chapter you can revisit when we are finished. Again, hurrah for you!

Ginny said...

I think it is wonderful that you listened to opera even though your family was home. Babysteps are so important and eventually take us where we want to go. Have a great Halloween!

sherry ♥ lee said...

Just do it Kim!! Seriously...you fall into the trap that so many of us fall into -- we don't make the time for ourselves. We promise ourselves something wonderful and then don't follow through, yet we follow through on the promises we make to others. And really, you are worth it you know! Go today and book a massage..just because you are you!!

becky n said...

Such a cute picture!

I am good at small treats, but can empathize with the putting off the massage. I love massage! Love, love, love it. Have promised myself I'd do it more regularly. I have two gift certificates sitting on my desk. I've said - after a craft show, when I'm all achey from all the lugging, I'd go get one - I'd do it.

I promise to do it in the next 2 weeks!

Have a wonderful Halloween!

valli said...

Thanks for your post. Yes please go and get a massage. You are worth it. Have a great and happy halloween. What are you going to be this year?

Kim said...

Kathryn - go get that massage!!!

Lawendula - I thought you were on vacation???!! Thanks for stopping by :)

Lawendula said...

Thanks for your comment. Not on vacation anymore, too much rain.
But not really back yet. Something in between.
Thanks for your comment!

glad said...

It's not always easy to remember to take time for self-care. We are so busy buzzing around taking care of the hive, that we forget to stop and taste a bit of the honey.

I hope you can enjoy some of the treats you have listed. You deserve to be treated well by you. You are worthy. You are enough.

Enjoy your Halloween treats!!

WrightStuff said...

You know I think that's quite an important thought - the denying your body the treats you promised = depression. I guess you could be hitting the nail on the head with this one. Baby steps are the way to go, but you know what... sounds like you are long due that massage, why not pick up the phone and book it right now? Go on! I'm sure you have the permission from everyone on this joy diet!

Lisa @sacred circle said...

"Why do I defer my desires, why don't I give myself the treats I know I 'd love. These are deep questions and I could (and maybe should) stop here to try to get to the bottom of them but I think they are questions I will probably be working on for quite a some time." Ah yes, how familiar that thought is to me... here's to breaking through that resistance and showering ourselves with love and compassion!

Ellecubed said...

Thank you for sharing your week with treats. I also really struggle with being able to give myself treats. I dug a little deeper this week and was able to figure out some of the reasons why. Have you thought about using a journal to write why you are so hesitant to treat yourself?

Helen said...

Funny how easy it is for me to want to say to you, WILL YOU JUST GO AND GET THAT MASSAGE NEXT WEEK, INSTEAD OF AGAIN PONDERING WHY YOU WON'T DO IT?! But I won't ;-) I know that it is often difficult to give ourselves permission to treat ourselves well. I have to admit I need lots of practice at this. Perhaps this is why Martha included, in her minimum daily requirements, getting permission from someone or somewhere else. Consider your blog's comments column as that permission!

Karen D said...

Thanks for sharing your journey with treats this week. Why is so hard to treat ourselves when we have no problem treating others, ah that is the question.

Sankofa Doll Artistry said...

Thank you for your thoughts. It is difficult to treat yourself.

Amy Jewell said...

Yeah! I am so glad that I am not the ONLY one who denies myself treats! Yep... I had a hard time with this one too. Not so much because I had trouble thinking of treats, but because it was painful to realize that I was like the evil step-mother who never treated myself. Painful. But I am on the mend, though, ON THE MEND!

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